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Daily Chizuk #0644
Parnasa / Money
Limited Entry: Respecting the Presence of Hashem
Golden Information To Improve Family Life
The Chovot HaLevavot in the Shaar HaBitachon (chap. 4) gives us the secret to having a happy marriage and children who have derech eretz. He writes that getting married and raising a family is a mitzvah between us and Hashem. Our intentions and motivations in performing this mitzvah is what will make all the difference. Hashem wants us to do everything in our power to take care of our family’s needs and to be loyal and trustworthy to them in all their concerns. We are to provide a happy and loving environment that will be conducive to raising our family to be true servants of Hashem. Everything we do for a spouse or for a child should be done solely to fulfill the mitzvah of Hashem. We should not do anything in order to receive reciprocation from a spouse or from a child. We should never feel I will compromise on what I want today so that next time they will compromise on what they want for me. We should not be motivated to help because our family will like us better or because they will praise us more or honor us or because we will then be able to control them.
If someone is ever thinking, I’m so underappreciated, he or she could use that as an opportunity to change their mindset and say, I don’t need to be appreciated. I’m not working for them, I’m working for Hashem. And so I’ll continue to do my job the best that I can and I’ll do it with joy. And that will be a great avodat Hashem which Hashem will appreciate and is trustworthy to reward.
The Chovot HaLevavot in the Shaar HaBitachon (chap. 4) gives us the secret to having a happy marriage and children who have derech eretz. He writes that getting married and raising a family is a mitzvah between us and Hashem. Our intentions and motivations in performing this mitzvah is what will make all the difference. Hashem wants us to do everything in our power to take care of our family’s needs and to be loyal and trustworthy to them in all their concerns. We are to provide a happy and loving environment that will be conducive to raising our family to be true servants of Hashem. Everything we do for a spouse or for a child should be done solely to fulfill the mitzvah of Hashem. We should not do anything in order to receive reciprocation from a spouse or from a child. We should never feel I will compromise on what I want today so that next time they will compromise on what they want for me. We should not be motivated to help because our family will like us better or because they will praise us more or honor us or because we will then be able to control them.
If someone is ever thinking, I’m so underappreciated, he or she could use that as an opportunity to change their mindset and say, I don’t need to be appreciated. I’m not working for them, I’m working for Hashem. And so I’ll continue to do my job the best that I can and I’ll do it with joy. And that will be a great avodat Hashem which Hashem will appreciate and is trustworthy to reward.
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